Backwards Beauty: How to Feel Ugly in 10 Simple Steps {Book Review}

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"I want to be pretty."

Well, doesn't every girl?

Of course! I don't know of any ladies that would say, "I would actually prefer to NOT be pretty." It's just ingrained in us to be desired. We want to look in the mirror and love what we see, and having others to see us that way is a huge bonus.

If at least MOST women didn't feel like this, we wouldn't have fashion mags, tons of makeup up and beauty brands popping up DAILY, plastic surgeons, or health clubs. 

This obsession with "beauty" has become a full time gig and it has also started to terrorize the hearts and minds of many young girls (and not-so-young girls!).  We have girls becoming bulimic and anorexic, cutting themselves apart by the hands of a surgeon, dressing as provocatively as possible, spending ridiculous amounts of money or anything that claims to make them look like the Kardashians, the Ariana Grandes, or the Rihannas.

"In the twenty-first century, most of the voices we hear every day tell us that only a very particular kind of girl is physically beautiful. And if we don't feel that we match that image of beauty being shoved in our faces everywhere we look, it crushes a little piece of our identity." -Jessie Minassian

In Jessie Minassian's book, Backwards Beauty: How to Feel Ugly in 10 Simple Steps, (which releases March 1) she really addresses this issue of Christians and beauty.  

This book is geared to younger girls, and is the perfect exposure of the falsehoods of the entertainment industry, the dangers of trying to hang on to such expectations, as well as what the real Truth is-according to the Word.

Some of her simple steps are:
#3: Compare Yourself to Every Other Girl
#5: Refuse to Take a Compliment
#9: Treat Your Scale Like a Magic Mirror

Each Chapter begins with "directions" on how to feel ugly:

"The world tells you that a secy body gives you power over guys, so use your "power tool" to your advantage. Dress and act sexually to get their attention and keep their love."

At the end of each chapter, she has a simple prayer and a few review questions to go over to make sure these truths stick. It's almost like a study guide within the book.

I admire Minassian's mission. She's done an excellent job of addressing all of the worries and anxieties that come with being a young woman in this day and age. From weight, to boys, to looks-she talks about it all and lines it all up with scripture. She even touches on things like pride, and how far a smile goes! I'm actually keeping this book for my daughter. She's only six, but it's a matter of time before the questions come along, and I think this would be a great resource for us to go over together.

The bottom line here is for each girl reading this to KNOW without a doubt that they are beautiful. Not because of the clothing they wear, or the trends they follow, but because of WHO made them. 

"The Lord doesn't see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7

I'd recommend this book to any mamas with young girls, as well as youth group leaders. The message that Jessie is sending is one we need to keep passing along. Make sure you check her and her ministry out at

* I was sent this book by the publisher in exchange for my honest review.*

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