Valuable Resources for Sexual Abuse Victims, Both Male and Female

This is one of those posts that you wish that you didn't have to write. It's awkward. Uncomfortable. But oh-so necessary.

Each one of these books brings something different to the table. I've been following Crystal for a while, and her heart for these women is just so darn beautiful. Her words resonate truth and speak life. As someone who too has been a victim of sexual abuse, I wish she could have been there and spoke these words to me. I wish that she could have told the young me how to REALLY recover from the horror-instead of being completely consumed by it for far too long. Journey to Heal is such a gift.

With Naming Our Abuse, I felt I NEEDED to bring this book to light because the sexual abuse of males is rarely discussed. And well, it needs to be. This isn't something that should be swept under the rug-especially in the church. And for the victims of such atrocity-they must be told that healing and hope is possible. Not by just anyone-but by someone who has been there. 

A path of hope and healing for survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

A woman who was sexually abused as a child is confronted with many internal questions: Am I worthless? Will I get past the pain? Do I matter to God? These and similar questions can carve a deep hole in an already wounded soul. Too often, the lies of worthlessness are believed, the pain becomes too much to handle, and survivors find themselves making choices that lead to more heartbreak. With over 42 million survivors (both male and female) in the United States alone, the need for a clear path to healing is great.

Crystal Sutherland—herself a survivor of CSA—knows that while the recovery process is complex, healing is possible with God’s help. For women who want to progress from simply coping to living abundantly, Journey to Heal guides readers through seven essential steps to recovery found in Scripture. Candid and open about her personal journey of healing, Crystal comes alongside her reader as a friend who understands. Infused with biblical truths, stories of hope from other survivors, and practical wisdom, this book leads women to discover the life of wholeness God has for them.

Crystal M. Sutherland is a writer, speaker, ministry leader, and mentor for survivors of sexual abuse. She has fifteen years of experience in ministry, including women's ministry, youth ministry, worship, and Bible teaching. She has also written and led a women's Bible study for female survivors of sexual abuse. Her work can also be seen on her active blog.


A stunningly vulnerable look at the horrific realities of sexual abuse and how to overcome them.

Male sexual abuse is increasingly in the news, from scandals in the Catholic Church to exploitations at Penn State. Yet books and programs about healing are still overwhelmingly oriented toward the female survivor of abuse. As men who experienced childhood abuse, the authors of this book are uniquely qualified to address the healing process of male survivors.

Using the metaphor of a car accident, Naming Our Abuse leads the survivor from the Wreck to the Accident Report to Rehabilitation to Driving Again. This four-step model illustrates that healing is a process to be nurtured rather than something that can be healed in a single telling. Following the authors' examples, readers are invited to find solidarity with other male survivors and develop an understanding of their own wounding through journaling exercises.

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About the authors:

Andrew Schmutzer is a professor of biblical studies at Moody Bible Institute (Chicago) and a graduate of Dallas Seminary (ThM) and Trinity (PhD). He writes about integrative issues surrounding abuse, trauma, lament, and spiritual formation and speaks regularly on issues of sexual abuse. Find out more about Andrew on his Facebook:

Daniel Gorski is a thirty-year veteran software engineer, having worked for AT&T, Lucent Technologies, Alcatel-Lucent, and Nokia. He earned a BS in Mathematics and Computer Science from the University of Illinois and an MS in Computer Science from Kansas State University, specializing in expert systems and software automation. 

David Carlson is a special education teacher, working in the suburbs of Chicago for the majority of his adult life. He takes great pride in being an advocate for his students and their families, helping them to navigate whatever challenges life may present. He is committed to encouraging and supporting male survivors through the various stages of their healing.

Please, I beg of you-if you or someone you love is dealing with the aftermath of such abuse, these books would be something great to look into. They're more than just self-help, they're beacons of light in the most hellish of darkness.

*I received these books in exchange for my honest review*
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1 comment

  1. Dominique, thanks for highlighting Naming Our Abuse a resource for survivors of abuse. As one of the authors (of this and other books on abuse), I'm offering to answer some questions on abuse that you might wish to post. Just a thought.

    Also, thanks for your own vulnerability on this issue, admitting the journey you've been on. This kind of honesty will create a new generation of dialogue that understands victim is not a gendered word. Kind Regards, Andrew


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