Don't Go to Bed Angry: Stay Up and FIGHT!

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Fighting within a marriage is hard-and sometimes really ugly. In the beginning of my marriage, I fought dirty. I wanted my husband to FEEL my hurt and sometimes my broken heart would spew some pretty awful word vomit. This wasn't something my introverted husband was used to, so he would just shut down and ignore me. This caused even more pain, so I tried even harder to be "heard" LOUD and not-so-clear. I guess you can only imagine the damage this did to our earlier years of marriage.


I WISH someone would have taught me earlier about how to handle marital conflict in a Biblical way. Shoot, I wish someone would have taught me how to communicate with a dude in the first place! (It's way different than what you think, ladies!)

Because we go into our marriage covenants as flawed, carnal humans-we must expect to see those sides at some point. BUT, they don't exactly have to be the end of it all. They don't have to define us, nor have rule over our marriage.

A practical handbook on how to fight better---together---for your marriage.


In every marriage, there is conflict. And with every conflict, there is a choice for resolution. Will you ignore the issue until it seemingly goes away? Or will you work together to find peace?

In Don't Go to Bed Angry, Deb and Ron DeArmond give you permission to fight. Conflict isn't the problem, after all; the real issue is how we deal with the conflict. Deb and Ron demonstrate how communication through conflict can safeguard---and even strengthen---your relationship. Immensely practical features including worksheets and discussion questions make this a definitive go-to resource to help you start fighting---together---for your marriage.


Our marriage can't be treated as a separate entity from our faith. it is who we are, and it comes with a commitment to become more like Jesus each and every day. It's a mindful, purposeful choice to walk in the Lord as we live out our marriage. -Don't Go to Bed Angry

This book isn't a manual on how to control your spouse, get even, or change him/her. This is a book to use together, to better the way you communicate during the tough moments. It will help both of you understand your mindsets and how you tick when you're angry. Don't Go to Bed Angry, gets into the thick of what your fighting styles are and gives Biblical basis on how to reform, regroup, and approach disagreements in way that won't tear you two apart. Being that it's coming from a married couple, you won't have to worry about this book being one-sided. Trust me-they're laying it all out for the BOTH of you.


So how do you pen the lines of communication? How do you establish good communication, helping you avoid conflict more easily and deal with it more constructively when it occurs? If the relationship is no in turmoil but is less transparent, candid, and kind than you'd like it to be, building solid communication skills is a smart investment. Let's learn to SPEAK the truth authentically in love. And God will happily lend you some of His love if you find it tough to produce on your own. -Don't Go to Bed Angry

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Ron DeArmond has a hungry heart for the Word, and has studied the Bible for 45+ years. Ron's call to serve men is evident in his previous ministry positions with Christian Men's Network under Dr. Edwin Lewis Cole and Faithful Men Ministry. Ron is currently the Associate Pastor of men's ministry at Catch the Fire/ DFW and has ministered around the world. The DeArmonds live in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

Deb DeArmond is an author, speaker, and coach with a focus on communication, relationships, and conflict resolution. Her writing explores marriage, parenting, in-law and extended family relationships. She is the author of Related By Chance, Family By Choice and I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last. Deb is the founder of Living-Write, where she coaches aspiring authors. She's monthly columnist and feature writer for Lifeway's Mature Living Magazine, and has published more than 120 articles online and in print publications. 




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2 comments

  1. Love this! I have been married 15 years and together for 22 years, raises our children and now empty nester Yeah!! This is a number one rule to never go to bed angry and more importantly talk through peacefully about anything that concerns each other. The only way to grow in harmony is to practice ways to love, care and nuture each other. It takes both willing party to fight for your love. I am so blessed to have a husband that wants what I want for us everyday. Thank you excellent review!

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  2. Love this! I have been married 15 years and together for 22 years, raises our children and now empty nester Yeah!! This is a number one rule to never go to bed angry and more importantly talk through peacefully about anything that concerns each other. The only way to grow in harmony is to practice ways to love, care and nuture each other. It takes both willing party to fight for your love. I am so blessed to have a husband that wants what I want for us everyday. Thank you excellent review!

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